Starting in early childhood you develop thinking patterns. As you grow older, it sets the framework that embeds habits and thinking, supporting approaches for change, across a lifetime.

At some point in your life, these habits overstay their welcome. You will know this as they are central to unfavourable outcomes. For some of you, the realisation of change will be more natural, than for others. This will be despite increased evidence that link these unfavourable outcomes. For those of you that experience this, change may elude you.

So what is change? You may know it as, doing things differently. What about brainstorming, generating ideas, taking risks, embracing challenges, observation, failure, emerging solutions, learning loop, practice and rehearsing. And finally creating a difference between now and future states.

So what happens when you need it, and yet for whatever reason it is elusive? Despite the theoretical approaches that psychology and other disciplines offer, for some of you it will continuously challenge. However you can try to do it differently.

Change is a complex transaction. What I have learned, is that you need to understand what it feels like, to desire change.

Along with this desire, you need to build the vision it fuels. It will be helpful if you can take risks. Learning not to be afraid of uncertainty, will create benefits. Learn to know and observe the unhelpful behaviours that identify something different needs to happen. Look for repetitive unfavourable drama and experiences. These are the indicators for change.

Change is also a challenge for those that have not been exposed to it, with optimistic approaches. It is an essential part of life, and developmentally it has a range of micro-skills attached, for successful global change.  Without this you may create a rigid life vision. When experiences, activities and people move outside of this you become more fearful, less adaptable, and potentially frozen unable to take action.

Change is a skill. Skills require continuous learning and this is different for everyone. The way you process information will differ from others. Often this occurs on a continuum. With new experience and concepts there are two key components in the learning process, reflection and application. This is critical particularly in change, as change requires repetitive and consistent actions, in the application of improved skills.  It is a continuous loop of iteration leading to sustainable change.

3 Steps for Change

  1. Recognise change requires skill, skills require learning and learning is different for everyone.
  2. Increase your thresholds for uncertainty, risk, difference, learning and challenge.
  3. Find real drivers to value change, as opposed to realising change only out of desperation or the unfavourable.

 What if you thought about change like this? Ultimately, every experience you have in your life is changing you. It is increasing your skills and awareness of what you need in your life. Meaning does not remain static. Essentially you are experiencing change even if you do not recognise it, with everything you do.

As a Founder of XTend I have conversations with individuals everyday about change and it looks different for everyone. For some it will be about ‘waking-up’ as some individuals have put it. For others it will be about being stuck, and wanting more favourable outcomes, and moving from overwhelm. For some it is about wanting to do life differently. Whatever change is for you, recognise why you are seeking it, and learn to adopt change in a more natural realistic pace, acceptance rather than from desperation.